“Beauty attracts!!” … It’s a universal truth for all men. But when this attraction ends up with a man raping a girl… it hurts. It not only hurts the victim, it also hurts us humans and our society. It makes us men being ashamed of behavior of those few people who belong to our gender.
But then like one billion people of my country, I too can’t do much about this whole issue. I do not like to walk with a candle light in my hands or a banner having “Real men do not rape” written on it. I feel like these are all pointless drama. I feel like these are ways of letting your frustration to come out without expecting any outcome. I hope every man knows that it’s not right to rape somebody. If I have to honestly share my thought then I would say, “Real men do not rape, they let girls to rape them”. I know what I said sounds bit cheap, but it’s what I feel. And I also do not think a soul never rest in peace if thousands of people walk on street holding a candle in their hands until the justice for her is pending.
But why am I saying all these? Do not have anything better to share here or I want to show my concern for the opposite gender!! Honestly, I am not sure about the answer.
Every day, when I turn the pages of the news paper, I come to know that one more rape in my country. What defers is the age and name of the victim. And it also does not signify that, number of rape cases in India is- “365 cases in 365 days”. I think the number is in multiples. It’s just that the media does not like to sound repetitive just like an author of a book stays away from using the same words again and again to make it salable.
Somehow I’ve started avoiding all these news until I came across a news headline today which was, “Engineering students design lingerie to protect women from sexual attacks”.
I was like, “what the fu**!! Do not these people have anything better to design?” But after all these people tried in their own way to come up with a solution which is feasible.. but I doubt how much is it accessible.
Few weeks earlier, a five-year girl got raped by a man. Then a four-year girl died after someone performed that horrific act on her. And there have been so many similar cases. So I do not think just a garment can protect a gender from the devil act of another gender. In a country where food, medical facilities or some other basic necessities are not accessible in most of the interior parts till now, how could we accept that people living there can access this garment to protect their integrity?
The lingerie is designed in such a way that, “the offender would receive 82 electric shocks and the GPS in it would also alert the exact location to police and intimate one pre-set family member.”
If this planet having billions of people, thousands of gods, hundreds of holy books could not, then I do not think those 82 shocks would be good enough to stop those men who dare to go against the moral values and humanity.
Seeing all these, I do realize that, “yes science has reached to the next level for sure just like the global temperature; but it worries me seeing how we humans are constantly losing that humanity and responsibility of being the most wonderful creatures in this planet with each passing day just like the icebergs melting in Antarctica area.”
The great American author, Isaac Asimov once quoted, “The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.” Is not it true!!I do not think, the job of science is- to develop lingerie to protect women from few men; I believe, it’s the job of us human including both men and women to use science as a tool to protect this planet from destruction.
While reading that article, I came to know, “The team’s innovation has already won them the Gandhian Young Technological Innovation awards.” I am sure, even Mahatma Gandhi’s soul must be feeling ashamed of us that at last we have to come up with such an idea of a garmentto protect women. I am not sure if there would be a day, when we have to come up with an idea of a lingerie to protect whole humanity from those devils in human skins whose numbers is increasing every second, every minute, everyday!!
I am not sure if science is also going to allow all those men who feel they are good enough to rape someone… to come up with a shock-proof condom!!
“Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.
Related articles
- Engineering students design lingerie to protect women from sexual attacks (ndtv.com)
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Being Arindam.. 
Elyse
May 7, 2013
Arindam this is pretty outrageous that there would be a need for such a garment. I hope your voice will help reverse the chain of events. It really is terrible. I’m glad you are speaking out against it.
Arindam
May 7, 2013
I had to speak out against it. Although I realize my voice is not that powerful to change anything much in this society. But it really hurts to see that at last we have to use science for designing and developing stuffs like these. Thanks a lot for stopping by, Elyse.
Praveena
May 7, 2013
I am really ashamed that incidents happened in our country made them to come up with this idea.As a woman,I would love and expect to see the day where everyone respects and treat each one with humanity.I am happy there are men left who respects the value of woman.Thanks for sharing.
Arindam
May 7, 2013
Yes, what is happening in our society these days not only compelling either me or you, but every sensible and responsible person to feel ashamed of behaviors of our countrymen. Let’s humanity is going to find its place in the society we are part of once again.
pattisj
May 7, 2013
Good to hear from you, Arindam. I hadn’t heard of this scientific creation. I doubt they can manufacture enough to protect women and young children from predators.
Arindam
May 7, 2013
Yes Patti, I too believe these product are hardly capable of protecting women. Let’s wait and see!! Thanks a lot for your visit.
renxkyoko
May 7, 2013
The only solution I guess is for women to be more vigilant to protect themselves and their daughters.
When I was a kid, I was not allowed to go outside , even at the front lawn, alone. And at school, we had a buddy system in effect.
Rape happens everywhere, and every minute , there’s a woman getting raped… they just don’t get in the news unless the rape causes death , or it’s done on a 5 year old kid.
Arindam
May 9, 2013
Ren, I am not sure about the solution that would help the cause, other then educating the people about the responsibility of being a human from young age.
Just like you, most of the people in our part of world do not dare to allow female go outside alone during night. And somehow although people like me do not think this is the right approach, but then there is no other way also. We need to act cautiously.
renxkyoko
May 9, 2013
Evil lurks, everytime, everywhere. No matter what we do, evil will be there, ready to pounce on the hapless. All we can do is to not allow them to get that opportunity to do their evil deed. We lock our doors, and though we know locks are not a hindrance to a bad guy , at least, we make it a hard for him to enter. That’s the only thing we can do, Arindam. Otherwise, we’ll be prisoners of our fears.
Arindam
May 9, 2013
True Ren!! This world is now full of evils. And as you very rightly pointed out, we just make it difficult for them to perform those evil acts.
Maxi
May 7, 2013
As a victim when I was very young, this idea strikes a chord with me.
Hope you are okay Arindam, that life is going well for you.
blessings ~ maxi
Arindam
May 7, 2013
I am fine, Maxi!! I hope every thing is fine at your side too!! Take care!!
hemadamani
May 7, 2013
Arindam, you have just voiced my thoughts. When i’d read this news i was outraged. By creating something like this we pass the onus of keeping women safe to women themselves. And I’m glad there are men around like you who think of women with respect. Maybe the world will change for the better one man at a time.
Arindam
May 9, 2013
I am glad that, I could dare to express thought of every sensitive human, who cares about humanity. I hope not only people like me or you, but many more are going to express what they feel about safety and integrity of women. Thank you for sharing your thought, Hemaji!!
becwillmylife
May 8, 2013
Arindam,
I don’t understand the mindset of rape. Would the men in your society want this for their sisters, mothers, or daughters? The women/girls being raped are someone’s mother, sister or daughter.
I have zero tolerance for this….I just don’t understand such brutality. I’m glad you voice your opinion. I hope others listen.
Arindam
May 9, 2013
I do not think anyone, can ever understand minds of those people who perform such horrific acts. If it’s due to desperation, attraction or something else, none of us is really sure.
Just as you very rightly said, after all the victims are also someone’s wife, sister, girlfriend or daughter.
We all need to have zero tolerance on this issue.
earthriderjudyberman
May 8, 2013
Rape is really about power, not lust. If it was about lust, you would not have 4 and 5-year-olds and elderly women being raped.
So, is the intent for creating the lingerie something to make women feel secure about? … Or is it something to convince the “suckers” that they have to buy to feel safe?
I’m with you, Arindam. We need to change attitudes, not new avenues of merchandising.
Arindam
May 9, 2013
Judy, you are completely right! It’s all in attitude rather than anything else. I do not think any law, product or even security system can ever make women feel secure while walking on the street all alone, unless the men walking on the same street change their attitudes.
belasbrightideas
May 8, 2013
What is happening in India right now is both tragic as well as hopeful. At long last, this issue is brought to the global forefront. I truly hope this is the beginning of the end of such reprehensible and lifelong damaging behavior.
Arindam
May 9, 2013
Bela, it’s not only about either India or any other part of the world; it’s an issue which is hurting most of the societies across the world. And just like you, I too hope the end of such acts should end soon.
rangewriter
May 10, 2013
It’s not a new idea. During the Crusades, women had to wear Chastity belts to prevent rape and, gasp, self stimulation. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chastity_belt
Arindam
May 11, 2013
I have no idea about this. Thanks for the link.
rangewriter
May 11, 2013
Pretty crazy, eh?
Arindam
May 12, 2013
Yes, for sure!!
2e0mca
May 22, 2013
Isaac Asimov’s quote sums it up beautifully and you have bravely tackled a very difficult subject. The line between consensual sex and rape is a very small one. For a young man it can be very difficult to read the signals given by young lady. In fact, if society didn’t frown on the situation, there’s a lot to be said for learning through an older woman or a propfessional lady in an extra-marital relationship. Perhaps that is part of the problem – society’s morals have closed down those avenues of learning? Add to that the issues that individual young ladies may have as well and you have a hotbed of potential issues for the police and the press to make a meal of.
That said, there is something clearly wrong where men feel they are immune from prosecution and gang rape young women in public situations. There can be no misinterpretation of signals in the situations that have been highlighted from India recently – these are purely brutal crimes. When the law is blind we should all fear for our safety 😦