It’s been long since the last time I’ve pressed the keys of my laptop to write something new. I am not really sure how much valid is the reason behind me deciding not to write anything for a certain period of time. After so many days when last night I opened that document which contains that story and characters those have been roaming constantly in my mind since last couple of years in form of my first fiction book. I realized the lead character, a sweet young man is still standing close to that girl after kissing her for the first time and now I’ve to set both of them free by moving the story forward. But the most honest boy and the most beautiful girl I could ever imagine have to wait for few more days until I will again start keying down the last few chapters of their life.
You people must be thinking, why am I telling you all this and wasting your precious time! But I think you are kind enough to allow me to waste few more time of yours until I will come to the point. Yes after I pressed that cross-bar at the right top of my document, I went on to sleep like any other usual day. Honestly, I am that guy who finds it difficult to remember his own girl friend’s birth day, so to except that I will remember today is women’s day is asking for too much.
But let me tell you why I respect that young guy, Mark Zuckerburg whose brainchild Facebook. It’s only because since the day I started using Facebook, it informs me the importance of every specific day; be it my girl friend’s birth day or rose day or even kiss day. I’ve grown up in an environment where we only knew two days those hold importance in our lives which were Republic Day and Independence Day of our country. And we used to believe any common day is good enough to kiss a person whom we love or to give a rose to beautiful girl to express our love. But as young people we used to gift roses to girl when they were cheapest in price. S just see being an Indian, how the financial status of our country played a vital role in deciding the day when we made our loved one felt special.
But the trend of our country is that, now the youth do not feel the need of going to even temples. Every day I see most of my friends receiving blessings from various Gods, just by liking their Facebook page. Thanks to Facebook, our Gods must be feeling like celebrities these days. But if both God and his E-devotees do not have any problem transmitting their devotions and blessings through electronic form; then who am I to raise a question on that!
So when I logged in to that beautiful book containing so many familiar and unfamiliar faces, I realized it was women’s day after seeing so many status messages. I did not bother to type that same line “Wishing happy women’s day to all beautiful women” just like my friends. I believe every woman in my life does not matter if she is my mother, sister, friend, girl friend or ex girlfriend realize that I do respect all the women irrespective of the fact that if she is beautiful or not, if I love her or not. So I did not feel I need to impress few beautiful faces by wishing them on a day which is dedicated to their gender.
Now after wasting few of minutes of my life in that precious virtual book called Facebook, I clicked on a link that took me to the website of a news channel which I visit every day to update myself what’s happening around me, so that I can score a high percentage of mark in the section current affairs of any competitive exam.
But on the morning of women’s day there was a news which grabbed my attention although I knew it would not help me in scoring a single mark in any exam as it had not much of importance in neither the world economy nor world politics. Still I read the whole story and believe me when I say that, it gave me enough reasons to feel ashamed of myself being a human.
What I read was not only heart wrenching or shocking but also it was disappointing for each one of us as humans.
In 1996, a 16 year girl was abducted and raped by 42 men for almost 40days. And after two decades, a church in southern region of India has asked the gang rape victim and her relatives to stay away.
I do not want to get in to the whole story as I know that it will not change anything in the society if I will share whatever I read there. But it was unfair and inhuman. After the girl got raped, her family were not only socially boycotted by friends and close relatives but also were forced to move out of the town they had always lived in. And now after twenty years, when that victim’s father went up to thank the priest for praying for his family, he was reportedly advised not to attend church anymore till the controversy over his daughter’s rape settles. Now somehow it makes me feel ashamed that after twenty years of struggle, still that woman and her family have to go through all this.
Every time we talk about the world is one place and we all are humans. Few instances and events like these give us the wakeup call that, no there is another world lies inside this beautiful world we live in, which is not equally beautiful and are we all really humans!
I do not see there is any point in wishing few ladies we know on a specific day; whereas for rest of the days in a year, we behave and act like puppets having no heart when we see some kind of injustice is happening with those people who belong to that same gender.
After all I too realize, we all have to look for a high salary job, buy a big home, big car. We all have to sleep early so that we can give birth to our own babies and the next day morning we all have to start our respective jobs so that we can save enough money in our life time for our next generations to live a comfortable life. Now who have the time to think about, what is happening with someone else.
What we can do is that, we can wish few women we know, a very Happy Women’s Day using our cell phones message box or by updating our status message in any of the social networking sites we are part of!!
But is it really going to work for us as human in the long run? Is it going to change anything for that gender “Female”! Neither I am asking these questions to myself or all of you here nor am I trying to find the answers. These unsolved questions having few complicated equations appeared billions of times in several parts of the words. But as I’ve said earlier, as humans these questions have lost their significance in that deep oceans of our personal needs and demands from life.
And these days, I too have went on to become an intelligent man; so let me take the easiest route to wish all the women I know …. that is with my words.
“A woman defines love to a man by making sure he will not miss his mother once he starts living alone being his girl friend… A woman defines respect to a man by waiting for him with empty stomach when he returns home on a full moon day just to worship him being his wife… A woman defines care to a man by waiting at the door step when he returns home from school being his mother…
A woman inspires a man to strive for excellence, fame, success, power and money being his lost love.
Thanks for bringing the love, support, inspiration, care and responsibility into our lives…
Happy Women’s Day!! :)”
Sneha bairagi
March 9, 2013
Thank u so much nd i liked it. every word u wrote is really very good and it is able to define love of a women..
Arindam
March 13, 2013
Thanks Sneha!! I am glad you liked this post. 🙂
writingfeemail
March 9, 2013
Welcome back Arindam. I suppose you have been busy with promoting your book which is reasonable. And I believe that all of us who have been following you appreciate the esteem with which you regard women. Thank you for that.
Arindam
March 13, 2013
Thanks Renee!! No I am no more busy with promotion of my book. I tried to do that with my blog for first couple of weeks and then let it to find its own path. 🙂 I am now concentrating more on my first fiction book; which I am trying to publish with some known publishing house of my own country.
mariner2mother
March 9, 2013
Thank you Arindam! That was poingant and beautiful. It is sad to realize that in so many places in the world, women are treated worse than animals, and are not valued. It’s tragic. I would love to see the day when everyone respects and values everyone.
Arindam
March 13, 2013
Same here!! I too hope that someday there will be equality in the society irrespective of the gender. I am glad that you enjoyed reading this post of mine and I am really happy to see you in my blog. Have a great day!!
Maxi
March 9, 2013
Bless you for your kindness and thoughtfulness toward women, Arindam. Your mother can be proud that her son is a good man with character. Your mother can be relieved that her son would never commit the barbaric actions you speak of in your story.
You give the women of your country hope. That one day the younger generation will change the brutality of the past.
I hope that everything is going well in your life Arindam.
blessings ~ maxi
pattisj
March 10, 2013
Thanks for your kind words, Arindam. Attitudes must be changed if we are ever to see a difference being made.
Arindam
March 13, 2013
Absolutely true Patti!! Every thing depends on the attitudes of us and how we treat each others.
earthriderjudyberman
March 10, 2013
Man’s inhumanity to man … or woman … is something I’ve never understood. The mantra of major religions in the world is the Golden Rule: treat others as you would want to be treated. Given that, how can any man rationalize that it’s OK to hold a woman against her will and violate her. Surely, he would not want this to happen to his mother, wife, sister, girlfriend or to any one else he knows. Thank you, Arindam, for your thoughtful comments.
Arindam
March 13, 2013
I agree with you completely. None of us want things like this to happen with any of our close people; but for that what we need to do is that we need to raise our voices when something like this happens with someone else’s dear ones.
Addie
March 12, 2013
We need this kind of female appreciation more than ever. Thank you, Arindam.
Arindam
March 13, 2013
Thank you Addie! There are still men left in this planet who appreciate what a female brings to this society.
belasbrightideas
March 15, 2013
Oh my gosh – this is too funny! Gods as celebrities …
Yes, Facebook has changed the way we relate to one another – some for the good (mostly, in my case, I think – as it allows me to keep up with 350 or so real friends, not just followers or people I’ve never met). The negative thing I can see is that it reduces our interactions to sound-bites. Have we become more shallow because of it?