Today is the birthday of one of the people whom I love, respect and admire the most. And just like past few years, neither can I arrange a party for her, nor can I gift her something as now I live in another part of the same country. Although like every year, I can wish her all the happiness in the world. Among those people whom I know in real world, no one deserves more happiness than this wonderful person whom god has gifted me as my sister.
I always believe a house becomes home, when the people who live there being part of a family tie each other with a thread of love, respect and understanding. And since my birth I’ve seen my sister acting as that thread who ties all the family members together. At this point of time, our generation is in its transition phase. Most of my siblings are married now, and somehow busy with their new families. There were days, when we used to live in a home, where rooms were not enough for the people living there. Still we had no problem in sharing our beds or those stuffs which used to belong any of us with those people whom we love. But today most of the people prefer privacy over togetherness, money over happiness, duty as a son, brother or husband over success. But just like me, my sister believes and prioritizes things in the other way.
It would not be wrong if I would have said that, my sister is the reason behind creating that kind human being in me, who is now occasionally, feels afraid to come out in this real world. As I see now people value goodness less, consider kindness as only an expression nothing else. Still every time a person in my family needs me I gather enough strength in me to make sure I will be there for him/her without much caring about how much it will hurt me in the long run. Every time an elder person wants to spend time with me, I never find myself busy. I believe I can work and earn money rest of my life and I hope my lifeline is as long as I imagine. But these are the people who will not ask for my time, attention after few more years. I prefer to live a life without few materialistic things which money can buy than to live a life with regret of not fulfilling wishes of those people who gave me everything without even asking for anything. I believe money and its power can never buy me anything which can replace or help me in getting rid of that regret of not doing much for those people who made me what I am today. And my sister is the one who passed on these beliefs to me. Just like me she too believes blessings do count and I have a strong belief that one day I will prove her and both of our ideology right.
Now like every other grown up person in this world, we are also busy with our respective lives. Now as all other housewives of my country, she remains busy with her cooking and like every youth of my country, I stay busy searching for that all important key to success. She lives in a city, where people say that city never sleeps. And I live in a city where it’s hard to sleep due to the heat and the weather condition. In last few years, with few failures I’ve seen people separating their paths and people giving so many advises to me. Here is one person who stood by my side, trying her best to bring that confidence back in me with her words which reach my ears through the receiver of my phone. She keeps on telling me I need to control my anger and my emotion. And honestly I am working on getting rid of these two weaknesses of mine. And the funniest part is I respect my brother-in-law a lot as he is a self-made man just like my brother; who achieved everything by his own hard work and intelligence. But that respect has given birth to a fear in me. I am so much afraid of him that, out of respect my voice reaches to its lowest level every time I talk to him and my legs vibrate as if in next few minutes it’s going to slide making path for me to enter in to that surface of earth. So every time I have to talk with my brother-in-law, my sister tries her best to inject that courage in me to talk with that person whom I respect a lot. She is actually the thread of love in our family, the bridge of every relationship and the inspiration for every kid of our next generation.
After 27 years since I was born, nothing much changed in the bond I share with my sister. It is as strong as it was few years earlier. I think now it’s even more stronger than what it was, because now I realize her worth as a person more due to the increase in maturity level in me. I know that her blessings are always with me that will help me to become a better person with time. The only thing that has changed with time is that now I am taller than her.
Jokes a part, the truth is that she inspires, she motivates, she loves and she cares not only me but each member of our family. She is the only person in the world with whom I can never argue with. If someone argues with her, then it’s always that person who is wrong. If someone tries to make her smaller in other’s eye; then by doing so that person is going to make herself smaller in others eyes. There are very few people in the world, who reach so close to perfection as a human being. And she is one among those rare god gifted people.
I do not want my next generation to get inspired by someone who is successful. I believe they are the luckiest of kids, who can get inspiration from someone so wonderful in our own family. There are very few people in the world, who prove themselves as a good son/daughter, a good brother/sister, a good husband/wife, a good father/mother, a good son-in-law/daughter-in law and most importantly as a good human being. My sister is one of them.
I just want her to get all happiness in life, because she deserves it. She gave happiness to everyone surrounding her & that process is still going on and I know that process will never stop. As people say every action has an equal reaction. So I am sure she is going to get all the happiness in her life too. She is now blessed with two wonderful kids and I am sure they are going to give her the love, happiness she really deserves throughout this journey of life.
Lastly Sanaapa (what I call my sister), wish U a very Happy Birth Day!!
Angelia Sims
October 8, 2012
Awe! She sounds like a very loving, and thoughtful sister. What a wonderful tribute to her. Happy Birthday to your Sanaapa! 🙂
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Yes Angelia, she is very loving and caring. I hope she deserves a much better tribute; but as you know I have my limitations as a writer. 🙂 Thanks a lot for the wish!
Cassie
October 8, 2012
Happy Birthday to your sister. She seems to be an incredible person! You do know, that what we see in other persons lays in us too, don’t you? You are a very kind person and I always love your posts! Hopefully I’ll find more time to read your other posts, too! Be blessed! Cassie
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Yes Cassie, I have she has a lot of influence on me. Thanks a lot for wishing her. I am sure your kind words are going to bring lot more happiness to her life.
Do not worry much about finding time to read my posts. I do realize sometimes life becomes so busy and hectic that, it becomes difficult to do stuffs which a person usually likes to do. 🙂
soumyav
October 8, 2012
a very sentimental loving wish it was for your sis from you! Amazing are the bonds of sister and a brother,as I know how it feels having such a duo being together. Many blessings and best wishes to your loving sister your Sanaapa! tama sanaapa ku mo aadu bhi bohut subhkamna! 🙂
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Bahut bahut dhanyabaad! 🙂
I was not aware of the fact that, we share the same mother tongue. 🙂
Thanks for this beautiful wish. I am sure it’s going to make her day special.
soumyav
October 9, 2012
welcome ! 🙂
Arindam
October 9, 2012
🙂
soumyav
October 9, 2012
more smiles.. 🙂 🙂
Becky Green Aaronson
October 8, 2012
What a beautiful tribute to your sister. Lucky you to have such a wonderful person in your life!
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Thank you Becky! Yes, I too consider myself lucky to have such a wonderful person in my life. I am blessed to have her as my sister.
justanotherwakeupcall
October 8, 2012
Happy birthday to your sis! she sounds wonderful 🙂 God bless her and you and everyone around you both with everlasting happiness!
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Thanks a lot Sapna. I too want her to get all the happiness in life; she actually deserves every happiness in this world. 🙂
Nibedita Mohanty
October 8, 2012
“Dear brother,
I am very happy to read your post.It is our bonding,our love for each other that makes this relationship beautiful. I don’t have supernatural qualities. I only try to do what I do to the best of my ability. But I definitely agree with you that your thoughts and my thoughts are similar. I believe that our values and powers are our property.The values of love and tolerance are my strength.So my advice to you is to be patient.Life is a competition. Situations change but solution is something that remains constant.So don’t try to blame the situation,always try to get the best solution and I’m sure that one day you’ll win . I am proud of you my brother. Love you.
Lastly I’d like to extend my heartfelt thank you to all you guys for your lovely wishes. I also want to thank you for encouraging and supporting my brother. I hope that these beautiful relationships last forever.”
Nibedita Mohanty(Or Sanaapa as Arindam fondly calls me).”
Arindam
October 12, 2012
Sanaapa, I am glad that you typed your first comment for my blog. It’s a special moment for sure. I do not know how much happiness my words could bring to you. But these few words of yours made me really happy. Yes I can never gather that much strength in me just like you. But yes I will try to be patient and will make sure I am going to come out as winner. 🙂
Maxi
October 8, 2012
You and your sister are blessed to share such love, Arindam. She will truly have a happy birthday when she reads this tribute.
Blessings ~ Maxi
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Yes Maxi I too hope so. The above comment is written by her and it suggests I could make her happy in a small way. 🙂
She's a Maineiac
October 9, 2012
Happy birthday to her! Great post, Arindam.
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Thanks Darla! Great to see you back in my blog after a long long time. 🙂
Judy Berman
October 9, 2012
The tribute to your sister is as beautiful as the one you wrote for your brother. I’d say you all are very lucky, indeed, to be part of the same family. The joke you wrote about being taller now. I tell my brother, who is 10 years younger than me, that no matter how big he gets, he’ll still be my “little brother.” He’s 6’1″ to my 5’5″. 🙂
Happy Birthday to your sister.
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Yes Judy, they are the people who keep on supporting me does not matter how big and how many mistakes I commit in my life. Yes we have a big family, just like people across the world have idea of an Indian family and every time we are together we have great time.
Thanks a lot for the wish. 🙂
becwillmylife
October 9, 2012
Happy Birthday, to your sister! I bet she will feel quite loved and appreciated by your post, Arindam. It is such a lovely tribute. I love my brothers and sisters very much too. I am happy to say that my children are extremely close too. My son, the youngest, is quite protective of his big sister. My daughter is motherly to her “little” brother who is now much bigger than her. Family is the best as you so eloquently expressed in this post. Thanks for your words, Arindam.
~Becky
Arindam
October 9, 2012
I too hope so Becky. Her comment on this note, suggests I could somehow manage to write down her important in my life with this post. And yes I too believe family is the most precious thing a person possesses. Thanks a lot for the wish. I am going to pass on all of yours wishes to her. 🙂
shanthisethuraman
October 9, 2012
‘HAPPY BIRTHDAY WISHES TO BELOVED SISTER’. There are few people in the world
to be love with all people. I think you are blessed to have such a sister who loves all.
Blessings more sweeter than gift I feel. I wish her once again for her “Birthday” to be happy
with her kids and family always.
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Thanks a lot for these kind words and beautiful wish Shanthi. And yes, I too consider myself blessed to have her as my sister. 🙂
dreamtheimmpossible
October 9, 2012
Happy Birthday to her..! Wonderful post…
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Thank you! 🙂
shanthisethuraman
October 9, 2012
What happened to my birthday wishes to your sister, Arindam, I think that you
must have deleted. No problem. Regarding mother trip to USA, YOU have replied all
except myself. May I know the reason please?, If you don’t want my post, please don’t send
your topic to me. I have got lot of work on the line. Secondly online is full of English.
My aim is only to improve my English, not any other purpose that I can find in online.
Thanks for sending me so far. Please stop sending your further topics.
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Shanthi, as you know once I confirmed someone’s comment then only it shows up in my blog. So it takes time as I can’t remain online for 24×7. 🙂
If you want to stop receiving updates of my blog, you can go for the unfollow. Let me check if I can help someone to unfollow me. If it’s possible then for sure I am going to help you. But I can’t guarantee you instant reply to your comments. 🙂
Trishanka
October 9, 2012
A touching b’day memoir! happy b’day to her
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Thanks a lot Trish. 🙂 And welcome to my blog.
ZinalBhadra
October 9, 2012
Lucky Sister
Happy bday to her
Earnest post…
Siblings are the best friends we can have 🙂 They are a blessing
Arindam
October 9, 2012
Zinal, I am not sure if she is lucky to have me as a brother or not. But for sure I am really lucky to have her as my sister. Yes, I share a special bond with her, and I share every secret of mine with her. May be she knows me better than I know myself. 🙂
Thanks a lot for the wish!
Elyse
October 9, 2012
A happy, happy birthday to your wonderful sister. My brother and I were inseparable as kids (in a family of 5) and we are still incredibly close.
That is my wish for you and your sister — when you are twice as old, may you be equally close!
Arindam
October 10, 2012
Thanks a lot for this beautiful wish. I am sure I will always remain equally close to her. The bond between a brother and sister is the most beautiful one. I am glad you too share the same kind of bonding with your brother.
groovylove
October 9, 2012
A very Happy Birthday to your sister! What a lovely post to write about your sister; your love, respect, and admiration for her is beautiful!!
Arindam
October 10, 2012
Thanks a lot. Yes I love and respect her a lot. She actually gives me many reason to respect and love her. 🙂
mj monaghan
October 11, 2012
Wow, you have at least two members of your family who mean so much to you, and have shared so much with you. Many happy birthdays to your sister. She sounds very special!
Arindam
October 11, 2012
Mj, there are few other members in my family who also means a lot to me. Actually we are all part of a big family. And most importantly, most of us share special bonds with each other. But I am not sure if our next generation can take this trend forward or not, as these days Indian family’s dimension and definition has changed a lot. But as people say nothing is permanent in this world. 🙂
Thanks a lot for the wish. She is really special to me.
Brittany
October 11, 2012
This is too sweet, happy birthday to your sister!!
Arindam
October 11, 2012
Thank You Brittany! 🙂
Whether Weather
October 11, 2012
All the while, I was thinking how lucky your sister is to have been blessed with a brother who appreciates her. Your kind come rarely, Arindam. A very happy birthday to your sister, which I am sure she’ll have, considering the thoughtful wishes you must be sending her way, always!
Arindam
October 11, 2012
Honestly, till now I’ve met very few people, who prefer to help others without expecting anything in return. So I am blessed to have her as sister. Just like she too does not celebrate her birth day. But yes I too hope he had a great day. Thanks a lot for the wish. 🙂
island traveler
October 11, 2012
I wish your sister all the joy and blessings on her B-day and everyday. I know how you feel. I have sisters I was so close with and now I am separated from them. 9 years of missing all the fun and happy B-day’s. In my heart though, they are just close by and my thoughts always pray that they are happy and safe. Great post Bro.
Arindam
October 11, 2012
Thanks bro for the wish.. Yes after a point of time, we all walk in different paths leaving all those people whom we love behind, to pursue our dreams. Still we always wish for their happiness. They remain special all through out this journey called life.
Teju
October 11, 2012
God bless your relationship and your sister! such an endearing tribute to your loving sister, very touching! 🙂
Arindam
October 11, 2012
Thanks for the beautiful wish and kind words Teju. 🙂
souldipper
October 12, 2012
What a birthday gift and wish, Arindam. Your sister is blessed having you as a brother. You recognize her goodness and allow her to be herself which is a statement of true love. Hopefully you will see your goodness sufficiently to stop those knees shaking when communing with anyone. Well, they’re allowed to shake for the first while after you meet the one you will love into senior years. A big Aunty hug to you.
Arindam
October 14, 2012
Amy Aunty, I am blessed to have her as a sister. And Yes I am not only working on gathering enough confidence in me to stop knee shaking when communing with others, but also working on to be a better human being to deserve respect from others.
Thank you for the hug Amy Aunty. A big Nephew hug back at you! 🙂
Shakti Ghosal
October 12, 2012
As I have gone through life I have noticed that spontaneity of our expressions towards our siblings and parents mellow with age but somehow gets replaced by an inner longing and memories of the good times we shared. How could we use this aspect of us to bring back our proximity to each other? Could it also be the inner motivation for you to write this post?
Loved the post Arindam. You have painted such a beautiful portrait of your sister, she remains blessed to have you.
Shakti
Arindam
October 14, 2012
Thanks a lot Sir. I am glad you liked my post. 🙂
You said the first line of your comment so beautifully. I am too experiencing the same, at this point of time in my life. Currently me and all my siblings are living in different parts of the world. Now a days we hardly get one week to stay with each other as everyone of us has his/her responsibility and priority. And most importantly I bit old fashioned when it comes to communicating with family members through cellphone or internet. So yes, to get those feelings out which I hardly express in front of others; once in a while I capture them with my words. Thanks a lot for this thoughtful comment. It’s always pleasure to read your comments.
dearrosie
October 13, 2012
Happy Birthday to your sister. What a Beautiful message – there is nothing as special as a sister. You are a thoughtful young man.
Arindam
October 14, 2012
Thank you, Rosie Auntie. 🙂 Yes she is really special. I am not good enough writer to capture all her goodness with my words.
aleafinspringtime
October 13, 2012
Dear Arindam, the more I know you, the one thing which I love most about the many things I admire about you is this – your wonderful family and the strong, unifying bond which you share with each of them. Cherish this blessing above all else. You have one of life’s greatest gift. My warmest greetings to your beautiful sister. Hugs, Sharon
Arindam
October 14, 2012
Yes Sharon. I too believe god has gifted me a wonderful family. And I always value it. They provide me a space to feel comfortable, important and lovable. I am the youngest in my family. So You can guess the amount of love I receive from all of my family members.
Thanks a lot lot for the wish. I will pass on it to my sister for sure. Hug back at you. May you too get all the happiness, you are such a wonderful person Sharon. I am glad I could meet you through this blogging. 🙂 Have a great sunday!
Sunshine
October 13, 2012
A beautiful brother you are sweet, Arindam, and grateful you shared your sister’s goodness with us…happy belated birthday wishes to your Sanaapa. I see your parents did a fine job…yay, to them as well! 🙂
Arindam
October 14, 2012
What Sunshine, I am a beautiful brother! 🙂 LOL I’d never received such a complement before. 🙂
Jokes apart, Thanks a lot for all the kind words dear. Yes whatever goodness are there in all of us, it’s only due to our parents. They raised us passing on all the values and goodness, they posses.
Sunshine
October 15, 2012
🙂
2e0mca
October 14, 2012
Happy birthday to your Sister 🙂 You are so lucky to have a Sister and a loving one 🙂
I have a question… If you are a distance apart how does she give you the Rakhi (hope I’ve spelt that right) that I see many of my Hindu friends wearing? Has it moved with our modern world and can now be sent via an email or do you meet at the time each year ?
Arindam
October 14, 2012
Thanks a lot Sir. Yes I too agree that, I am lucky to have such a wonderful sister. 🙂
You have asked a good question. Yes nowadays we find it difficult to meet each other on this festival. But yes, every year she couriers me Rakhi, which I tell any girl (whom I believe can never be my girlfriend) to tie it on my wrist 🙂 You have a lot of knowledge on our cultures and you spelled Rakhi right. 🙂
2e0mca
October 15, 2012
Thanks Arindam – I have had many colleagues from India in my working life and I’m one of those people who likes to ask questions. I always found them happy to respond to my curiosity 🙂
Arindam
October 15, 2012
Let me tell you, I am also one among those people who find happiness to respond to your curiosity. Things like this helps us, to understand and value each others culture. 🙂
happykidshappymom
October 14, 2012
Hi Arindam, oh what a beautiful tribute to your sister. You must share this with her! Have you done so? I think it would make her cry, as it did me, to see the beautiful thoughts you share and the overwhelming love, respect and admiration you have for your sister. She sounds like an incredible woman. Who has an incredible brother! I was searching for my favorite line, but the more I read, the more lines I wanted to cite. In the end you said this, “There are very few people in the world, who reach so close to perfection as a human being.” And though that might not be my favorite line, it does sum up all the other ones I liked so nicely. You’ve painted a beautiful picture of your sister, and your relationship. How you grew up, how you shared your toys, and how you love her now. What a great birthday wish, and I will echo it — Happy Birthday to your sister! 🙂
Arindam
October 14, 2012
Thanks Melissa. I wonder, how could you always have the best words to say to bring smile on someone else’s face. 🙂 Yes I shared this one with my sister. In reply she wrote her comment for the first time in my blog. That comment will always remain special to me. She is one of the most wonderful person I know in this real word. Although I am not sure if she has an incredible brother or not. I am not as good as you people think. I do have my share of weaknesses as a human. Let me share a story of my sister with you, which I’ve not share in my post. There is a vegetable shop near to her home and a small kid works there. That kid always look at their car every time it comes out of my sister’s apartment gate. One day, while my sister was in car, she called that boy near and asked him if he wants to take a ride in it. With a little bit of fear and hesitation that boy nodded. Without wasting few more time, my sister took him with her to a shopping mall and bought a pair of clothes for him. There are many more such instances which always inspires me to become a better person.
Lastly thanks for this beautiful wish Melissa. Your wish means a lot, as it came from one wonderful person to another. 🙂
Blood-Ink-Diary
October 17, 2012
What a lovely tribute to your sister ! Indeed, I relished reading parts of your life – written without ego or that human complexity. Brava for the truth.
I esteem your values in a world that is quickly losing the attributes of compassion, ethics, values and morals – you, my dear friend, have the traits that is real to the self, which exudes to the people who have faith in you as a son, brother, friend, colleague, et al….
To tell you the truth, you are already a “self-made” man — watch that film I recommended on my last post to understand what we humans fail to understand. Great to have you on my journey through sharing our mutual reflections on this platform
Love & light.
Arindam
October 28, 2012
Thank you for speaking all these kind words, which I am not quite habituated to. But yes, it feels great to hear such words. 🙂 I love and respect my sister a lot. Actually, I do not think there is something more important to me than my family. And honestly, I am not a self made man yet. But yes, that I always want to be. And I believe dua of people like you can help me to be one.
I feel the same about you. It’s wonderful to share our thoughts through such a wonderful platform.
Have a great Sunday!
shamasheikh
October 17, 2012
What a beautiful, love filled tribute to your SanaApa Arindam…please give her Duas from me too…may the Good Lord always keep this bond of love…respect…inspiration and sense of kinship in the Palm of His hand….amen!
Recognizing and treasuring these bonds of family is a huge blessing…may this one be your’s and your family’s now and always…amen!
God bless you…
Arindam
October 24, 2012
Thanks a lot Shamaji. I’ve passed on your Duas to my sister. This one is a wonderful blessing which you’ve passed on to us. I am really thankful from my heart for these kind words.
Deborah - d.mooncrab
November 28, 2012
It is a lovely tribute from you to your sister Arindam. Some of us go through life never find that heart to heart connection like what you and your sister have, you are blessed with a wonderful one. Happy belated birthday to your sister!
Dipayan
January 22, 2015
Truly I felt the love you have for your sister…..its the same with me….she’s like a blessing to me….I just pray to god to give me the strength to fulfill all her desires and keep her happy all the time….we realized our bonding a lot later in life…but now we are the best of friends one could imagine of having….all my dark secrets, my weakness, my guilts….she knows that I am not the best person but still she loves me a lot…God, I will always remain indebted to you for giving me such a precious relation….Arindam…I would like to get suggestions from you…like in what more ways can I keep my sister happy, what do they expect from their brothers….