“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.” -Rita Mero
Life is a journey, and we all are humans. So we can’t do everything right during this journey. Mistakes & wrong choices are part and parcel of life. Sometimes these mistakes become regrets and they really hurt. But why to spend lots of time thinking and analyzing those regrets? These things were not in our hands and we have to live with those regrets. So it’s always better to move on with life, living all those memories behind.
We all fall in love, without even knowing if that person has the same feeling for us. Then with time, we get in to a relationship. But for a relationship to work, only love in not enough. Lots of other factors influence a relationship. With the growing age, increase in maturity the compatibility comes in to play. What’s the point in staying together, if both those people want different things from life? It has nothing to do if that’s a mistake or the wrong choice made by those people. The result is always same; both end up walking towards different paths of life alone. But does life end there? No, it does not. It just one more huddle in life; which a person needs to cross successfully.
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” -Alexander Graham Bell
Yes, we all are humans; and the regret of not spending a whole life time with that person, whom we loved at one point of time, is going to be there. But when life closes one door, it opens another. We only need to search for that door, rather than waiting for that close door to open. Yes, it is not that much easy. Yes, it takes time to get out of a relationship. But time heals all the wounds. That hard time, that bitterness in life makes us all much stronger and much more mature.
“Accept everything about yourself – I mean everything, you are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets.”
-Henry A. Kissinger
Some people are afraid of letting the other person know about their feelings. They are so afraid of getting rejected, that they never speak their heart out. So, with time those unexpressed feelings, those unspoken words, leaves regret in that person’s heart. So, why to live with the regret of not letting the other person know, how much you love & care for him/her? There is no guarantee that you will get one more life, to express your feeling. So go ahead and let the person realize how much you love him/her. It’s always better to live with the regret that at least you tried and failed than the regret of never trying to do, what you wanted.
“I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about regrets because there’s nothing I can do.” -Sheryl Crow
That regret of losing a person, who hold importance in our lives helps us realizing the value of life. Because then only, we learn that, we have one life to live, one life to love and one life to get lots of love in return. And yes, that regret sometimes brings tears in our eyes; that regret sometimes makes us feel we are lonely in this world; that regret sometimes takes away our belief on relationships; yet, that regret helps us finding the answer to the question “Who am I?”; That regret motivates & inspires us to try & do something extraordinary in life, without the fear of losing. If we can stay alive after losing that thing or person, who was the reason of us living at some point of time, then it will not bring much change to our lives, if we will fail while trying to do something different & extraordinary.
So let’ turn that regret in to the reason behind our success. Move on with life, do some wonderful things with life, extract all the happiness from it, find some beautiful & intelligent people who can realize your worth and respect your feelings. Most importantly, spend some time with yourself, and realize your worth yourself, then only people will realize your worth. Go & prove a point, to that person who is the reason behind your regret and give him/her a chance to realize “How does it feel to regret”….
“Do not Fall in Love….. try to Rise in Love…”
Wishing you all a very ” Happy Valentines Day“. May love find its way to you…
“Tere Jaane ka asar kuch ish tarah hua mujh par,
Tujhe dhundte dhundte maine khud ko paa liya”- Anonymous (It’s written in the Hindi Language)
The impact of losing you worked on me in such a way that,
In order to search you, I have found myself”…..
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