The Biggest Reality of Life!

Posted on December 5, 2011


“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”               –  Dale Carnegie 

 I have not achieved all those things what I desire from life yet. So it means i am yet to be completely successful in life. But till now that has never affected my happiness.  Because I feel that happiness is an inner feeling which comes from inside of a person. It has nothing to do with success.  As success can only bring money, power or fame. Success is nothing but a feeling of accomplishment. Whereas happiness is something we enjoy doing. For me happiness is, spending time with my family & close friends. For me happiness is playing game in my computer. For me happiness is playing with my cat & dog. So how can success or failure affect my happiness?  My cat & dog have nothing to do with my success or failure. My computer game will work perfectly fine even when I am not successful.  So they will let me stay happy.

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”                    ― John Lennon

When I was 5 years old, I did not remember whether my mother told me that or not like John Lennon’s mother. But I can identify myself with this quote. Because, I never knew what I would be in life. The only thing I wanted in life is happiness. But lately I realized, may be life does not go like this.

I am 26years old now. In these years I have seen both sides of life. As success & failure is every human being’s part of life. With growing age of mine, priorities of life started changing now. Now I am no more that young guy going to college, who loves to play cricket with friends, who loves to go for a movie or for a dinner with friends, who likes to spend time with girlfriend.  Few years before, I was finding happiness in these small things. As those people whom I love or who love me were not expecting anything from me. So I was not worried about anything, rather they never let me get worried about anything. I will not say that, now they have started expecting anything from me. But what changed  is that, now I have matured with time. Now I started realizing what problem those people whom I love and care about are facing. So how can I find happiness in those small things now, when I see them not happy with their lives.

A person can only be happy when the people surrounded by him are happy. So now I have started realizing that you should be successful in your life to give happiness to those people whom you love and care about.  You may argue that, if success brings money then how can money be the solution to all problems in life. But believe me, what I realized in these years is that, may be money is not the solution to all problems; but it can solve all major problems in life.

When i looked at all those people surrounding me, i realized that- How can a person be happy, when that person sees, everyone’s parent is traveling by car and his parent don’t have one? How can he be happy when his girlfriend/wife wants you to buy a flat for her rather than to make her stay in a rented house? How can he be happy when he see someone of his close friend’s sister is not getting married due to financial problem in his family?

I do not know about you, but for me there are only two solutions to all these problems. Those are – either you have enough money to make a change by yourself, or you should start ignoring these things. If you can’t ignore these things, then only solution left is you have to earn money. And if you are like me, then you can’t earn money by wrong means. So you have to be successful in your life. So here success is directly or inversely proportional to happiness.

I read somewhere a quote; which says-

Money & success can’t give u happiness in life. But it’s always better to cry in a Mercedes than on a bicycle.”

Yes it’s also true that there is no guarantee that with success & money, happiness will surely come. Still it can help you to end your worries. So striving for success is not a bad thing at all. But someone must not get addicted to success. Because then the definition of happiness will keep on changing for him/her. Then it will be hard for that person to get satisfied with his/her own life.

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