There are very few people in this world who have talent, who are hard working. But do really all of them are successful in their life? Do really all of them are happy? No not at all. It’s because, some people do not have the most important criteria to be successful or happy in them, i.e. Confidence. All though the dictionary meaning of confidence is “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities”, but for me confidence is an inner feeling which comes from within a person.
“If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.” -Marcus Tullius Cicero
You can’t do justice with any task if you do not have the confidence in you. If you can’t believe that you are going to do something for sure, then why someone else is going to believe in you. Confidence acts as the fuel to achieve whatever you want. You can’t win unless you have the confidence that you will win.
“It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.” -Sally Field
Sometimes I get the feeling that yes I am confident enough to do this. But I have a fear that may be someone else has not faith in my ability, or else I may say that they do not have the confidence in me. Should I care about what other people say about my ability? Does my inner voice hold no importance to me? Why shall I let others to judge me? How can other people know my strengths & weakness if I myself can’t realize it? What if I will stand in front of all and say I am really good at this & I am confident that I am going to do this what you people are thinking impossible for me?
I know some people can term it as over-confidence. But for me it’s not, because a person’s inner voice can never be wrong. My inner voice never told me that I am going to lead the soccer team of my country & help it in winning the world cup. My inner voice never told me to join politics so that I will be prime minister of my country. My inner voice never told me that I am going to do those things at which I am not good. But for sure it gives me feeling that “I am going to do it”, when it feels that yes I am good at this. So Why I will get scared of others when I will say, “Yes I am really good at this, I am going to achieve this which you people are thinking i can’t. What if you people are going to define my confidence as over confidence, even though you do not have scale and unit to measure my level of confidence?
“Thousands of geniuses live and die undiscovered – either by themselves or by others.” -Mark Twain
Everyone has a genius in him. So to let other get that person discover, first he/she has to discover that in himself/herself. So the choice should be yours-“Whether you want to live and die undiscovered or to make other realize that one more genius discovered.”
So it may not sound good, it may not impress some of the people, it may go against you; still in life if you really feel you are good at something, then stand tall while saying that “I am confident that……….”. For me just like breathe is important to stay alive, confidence is important to make others feel that you are actually alive.
“Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” -Norman Vincent Peale
islandinspired
October 26, 2011
Great blog my friend, inspiring, bold and original
great job!
islandinspired
Arindam
October 26, 2011
Thanks a lot friend 🙂 thanks for the visit 🙂 Keep writing….
writingfeemail
October 26, 2011
I am glad you have confidence Arindam. I think we often have confidence in everything except that which matters most to us. It is good that you have learned it at this stage in life.
Arindam
October 26, 2011
Thanks a lot Renee for these encouraging words!! Yes It took some time to get that confidence in me. But i am happy at last i have it in me now!!
Piyush
October 27, 2011
This is what I have learned : “You need to learn to Dream, You need to believe in it and you have to guard it”…… Amazing Post. 🙂
Arindam
October 27, 2011
You summarize the whole concept of post in just one line!!
Thanks a lot Piyush… Nice to see you in my blog after a long time!!
morristownmemos by Ronnie Hammer
October 27, 2011
The truth is that many people have very little confidence. Some just hide and some are overly boisterous.
I learned this when teaching an assertiveness course.The most surprising people who look confident turned out to be insecure and frightened.
Ronnie
Arindam
October 27, 2011
Ronnie
I agree with you that many people have very little confidence. But i did not know that most surprising people who look confident are insecure & frightened. Thanks for bringing it to my knowledge.
Thanks for visiting my blog & commenting on it !!
AriRambles
October 29, 2011
Good post Arindam… I think confidence comes from self belief – once you believe that you have a skill that you can hone and make it big, confidence comes to you naturally. Keep writing…
Arindam
October 29, 2011
Thanks a lot Arindam!! 🙂 What ever you said was perfect. Confidence is nothing but the self belief that ,”Yes I can do it.”
Yes I will keep writing for sure!!
She's a Maineiac
October 29, 2011
Wonderful post! Loved the quotes. I am just starting to become more confident. Writing is such a joy for me. I hope you continue as well, Arindam.
Arindam
October 29, 2011
Thanks a lot Darla!!
Nice to see you in my blog, although i did not expect that.
Yes your writing shows that you are very confident. And for sure you should be as you are such a wonderful writer. For me also writing is such a joy, and i also hope i will continue with it as long as I can 🙂
fameisinsane
October 30, 2011
nice blog, i really needed this 🙂
Arindam
October 31, 2011
great 🙂 I hope you are going to make it big in life 🙂