Confidence lies in Overconfidence

Posted on June 5, 2012

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There are very few people in this world- who have talents, who are hard working. But do really all of them are successful in their lives? Do really all of them are happy? No not at all. It’s because, some people do not have the most important criteria to be successful or happy in them, i.e. Confidence. All though the dictionary meaning of confidence is “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities”, but for me confidence is an inner feeling which comes from within a person. It’s a gut feeling which says, “Yes I can…. do it!”.

“If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.” -Marcus Tullius Cicero

This quote is actually suits me to the perfection. I know I can do lots of things, and I do believe that I am good with that job in comparison to few others. But somehow I am a loser because I do not have the confidence to convince others that, yes I can do it. You can’t do justice with any task if you do not have the confidence in you. If you can’t believe that you are going to do something for sure, then why someone else is going to believe in you. Confidence acts as the fuel to achieve whatever you want. You can’t win unless you have the confidence that you will win.

“It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.”  -Sally Field

Sometimes I get the feeling that yes I am confident enough to do this. But I have a fear that may be someone else has not faith in my ability, or else I may say that they do not have the confidence in me. Should I care about what other people say about my ability? Does my inner voice hold no importance to me? Why shall I let others to judge me? How can other people know my strengths & weakness if I myself can’t realize it? What if I will stand in front of all and say I am really good at this & I am confident that I am going to do this what you people are thinking impossible for me?

I know some people can term it as over-confidence. But for me it’s not, because a person’s inner voice can never be wrong. My inner voice never told me that, I am going to lead the soccer team of my country & help it in winning the world cup. My inner voice never told me, to join politics; so that I will be the next prime minister of my country. My inner voice never told me that, I am going to do those things at which I am not good. But for sure it gives me feeling that “I am going to do it”, when it feels that, yes I am good at this. So Why I will get scared of others when I will say, “Yes I am really good at this, I am going to achieve this which you people are thinking I can’t.  What if you people are going to define my confidence as over confidence, even though you do not have scale and unit to measure my level of confidence?

“Thousands of geniuses live and die undiscovered – either by themselves or by others.”  -Mark Twain

Everyone has a genius in him. So to let other get that person discover, first he/she has to discover that in himself/herself. So the choice should be yours-“Whether you want to live and die undiscovered or to make other realize that one more genius discovered.”

So it may not sound good, it may not impress some of the people, it may go against you; still in life if you really feel you are good at something, then stand tall while saying that “I am confident that……….I can do it. I may seem as overconfident while saying so, but to be over confident we all need to be confident first”.

For me just like breathe is important to stay alive, confidence is important to make others feel that you are actually alive.

“Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”  -Norman Vincent Peale

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