“We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”
In past 26 years whenever someone asked me, “what do I want to be in life?”. Like John Lennon, I replied with a single word “Happy”. But to be honest there were very few moments, where I was happy. Yes every day I laugh out laud; even lauder than all those people sitting with me, talking to me or working with me. Does it mean I am happier than them? No, I do not think so. Their laugh may not be as lauder as mine; but their laugh echoes more than mine; it’s simply because it comes from deep inside. The smile on their faces lasts longer than mine. There is a simple difference between me & those people; that is- I try to look for those moments which can give me happiness; which I lack in life. But for those people the happiness is already inside them. They are really happy; they just need some moments, to show that happiness by letting them out.
According to the Chinese proverb-
“If you want happiness for an hour, Take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day, Go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year, Inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime, Help someone else.”
But I do not feel it’s true. And I really mean it. Happiness is not that much simple; a person can’t get happiness by just helping someone else. To help someone else, a person need to help himself first to reach to a position; where he can help someone else without hurting himself.
For the sake of writing or if I am not wrong then for the sake of spreading some words of wisdom; I may say- “For a mother happiness may be holding her new born child in her hands, for a father it may be seeing his son or daughter achieve those things in life, which he could not. For a son & daughter the happiness lies in seeing their parents proud of them and seeing them smiling, healthy and satisfied. Yes these moments give us happiness; but for me the real happiness lies much deeper. Being a son/ daughter, father/mother, being a husband/wife we find the happiness in the happiness of those people who are precious to us. But we are so busy playing these different roles in life we somehow sometimes forget that, there is a “me” and “myself” among all of us; which has some dreams and some aspirations from life. But somehow within the rush of life we forget to respect & value these inner thoughts. We start compromising with everything in order to meet the need & demand o f life. If with my own experience and being practical, I would say- “For me Happiness lies in experiencing a moment we all wait for …we all strive for… we all dream for. It may be anything depending on the individual.”
As an individual we all want to achieve something; we all want to get respect from the society we live in or at least from the people we live with. Happiness may be lies in that moment when a person can realize his own existence rather than letting other feel his existence.
Few days earlier I watched the movie “The pursuit of Happy-ness”. I can tell you it’s not only the real story of Christopher Gardner. But somehow it’s a story of millions of the people across the world; who struggle in their own ways in pursuit of happiness. They lose their precious things in order to chase that dream which is going to give them happiness. But thing is that, how many of us do not quit until they reach there.
We all take criticism of others on our jobs and opinions on us too seriously; yes opinions & criticism are very important ingredients for our growth. But sometimes taking these things too seriously comes in the way of our happiness.
In the movie “The pursuit of Happy-ness” one dialogue which Will Smith delivers to his son, which I am going to repeat here is so true-
“Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you gotta protect it. When people can’t do something themselves, they’re gonna tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period.”
Yes we all need to walk towards our dreams while protecting it from others. The real happiness lies there. We can reach there, until & unless we choose to walk on a path someone else chooses for us.
Just walk, walk & walk singing these lines Written by Mahalia Jackson with a smiling face; whenever you will feel alone or disappointed, whenever someone will throw a stone at you to break your dreams or someone else separates his/her path from yours thinking that you can never reach there. Just hold on to those hands which have faith and confidence on your dreams; I can assure you- “One day We will all meet in that place; where happiness lies for us.”
“Lord do not move that mountain,
Give me strength to climb it,
Please do not move that stumbling block,
But lead me lord around it.
My burdens they get so heavy,
Seems hard to bear,
I won ‘t give up,
Because you promised me,
You’d meet me at the altar of prayer.
Lord do not move that mountain,
Please do not move that mountain.
But give me strength to climb it….”