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Weekly Photo Challenge: Regret

“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”   -Rita Mero

Life is a journey, and we all are humans. So we can’t do everything right during this journey. Mistakes & wrong choices are part and parcel of life. Sometimes these mistakes become regrets and they really hurt. But why to spend lots of time thinking and analyzing those regrets? These things were not in our hands and we have to live with those regrets. So it’s always better to move on with life, living all those memories behind.

We all fall in love, without even knowing if that person has the same feeling for us. Then with time, we get in to a relationship. But for a relationship to work, only love in not enough. Lots of other factors influence a relationship. With the growing age, increase in maturity the compatibility comes in to play. What’s the point in staying together, if both those people want different things from life? It has nothing to do if that’s a mistake or the wrong choice made by those people. The result is always same; both end up walking towards different paths of life alone. But does life end there? No, it does not. It just one more huddle in life; which a person needs to cross successfully.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”   -Alexander Graham Bell

Yes, we all are humans; and the regret of not spending a whole life time with that person, whom we loved at one point of time, is going to be there. But when life closes one door, it opens another. We only need to search for that door, rather than waiting for that close door to open. Yes, it is not that much easy. Yes, it takes time to get out of a relationship. But time heals all the wounds. That hard time, that bitterness in life makes us all much stronger and much more mature.

“Accept everything about yourself – I mean everything, you are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets.” 

   -Henry A. Kissinger

Some people are  afraid of letting the other person know about their feelings. They are so afraid of getting rejected, that they never speak their heart out. So, with time those unexpressed feelings, those unspoken words, leaves regret in that person’s heart.  So, why to live with the regret of not letting the other person know, how much you love & care for him/her? There is no guarantee that you will get one more life, to express your feeling. So go ahead and let the person realize how much you love him/her. It’s always better to live with the regret that at least you tried and failed than the regret of never trying to do, what you wanted.

“I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about regrets because there’s nothing I can do.” -Sheryl Crow

That regret of losing a person, who hold importance in our lives helps us realizing the value of life. Because then only, we learn that, we have one life to live, one life to love and one life to get lots of love in return.  And yes, that regret sometimes brings tears in our eyes; that regret sometimes makes us feel we are lonely in this world; that regret sometimes takes away our belief on relationships; yet, that regret helps us finding the answer to the question “Who am I?”; That regret motivates & inspires us to try & do something extraordinary in life, without the fear of losing. If we can stay alive after losing that thing or person, who was the reason of us living at some point of time, then it will not bring much change to our lives, if we will fail while trying to do something different & extraordinary.

So let’ turn that regret in to the reason behind our success. Move on with life, do some wonderful things with life, extract all the happiness from it, find some beautiful & intelligent people who can realize your worth and respect your feelings. Most importantly, spend some time with yourself, and realize your worth yourself, then only people will realize your worth. Go & prove a point, to that person who is the reason behind your regret and give him/her a chance to realize “How does it feel to regret”….

“Do not Fall in Love….. try to Rise in Love…”

Wishing you all a very ”  Happy Valentines Day“. May love find its way to you…

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“Tere Jaane ka asar kuch ish tarah hua mujh par,

Tujhe dhundte dhundte maine khud ko paa liya”- Anonymous (It’s written in the Hindi Language)

Which means-

The impact of losing you worked on me in such a way  that,

In order to search you, I have found myself”…..

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87 thoughts on “Weekly Photo Challenge: Regret

  1. My partner gave me a case with the Alexander Bell quote on it after we suffered a miscarriage. I always happen upon it when I need the strength and reminder to look beyond. Thank you.

  2. I really like the sand imagery. For me it says that we should not squeeze tightly and keep hold of regrets, but open our fingers and let the grains of sand slide through easily and with as little pain as possible. By squeezing the grains, you cause pain in your hand. Slightly different from how you interpret your images I know, but I thought I’d share what they say to me. thank you for posting them.

    1. You interpret that photograph so beautifully in your own way. Thanks for sharing your thought here. You show me a new way to look at those things surrounding us.
      “we should not squeeze tightly and keep hold of regrets, but open our fingers and let the grains of sand slide through easily and with as little pain as possible”- you have written this so beautifully.
      It was a pleasure to read your comment. My best wishes to you. :)

      1. Thank you very much. I really like it how we can both interpret the same image differently, yet both appreciate each other’s interpretation. I’m really enjoying reading your other posts on your blog as well. Keep it up!

  3. Excellent post with burning passion, love and affection written all over it. So positive and uplifting. Just an inspiration and joy to read. So true when you said, ” Try to replace regrets with all those beautiful memories life has given us.” I will try to remember that always. Have a wonderful Valentine’s day…best wishes to you Bro…

    1. Bro, I always believe that, there is no point in regretting about those things, which were not in our control. So it’s better to move on with those beautiful memories, rather than living with those regrets, which are going to be there forever.
      Your every comment brings a smile on my face and motivates me to try and write even better. So thank you for everything good, you pass on to me via your comments. My best wishes are always with you & your wonderful family. May god bless you all wonderful people. :)

    1. Thank you Nandini. You are a wonderful photographer, so if you like these photographs, it means I have done some kind of good work with this post. Thank you for these kind words. Best wishes to you. :)

    1. Thank you. That video which I embedded with that post on “Romance” did not work properly in some countries… so I decided to delete that one. I may post only the text part of that post tomorrow. Let’s see! :)

  4. That s what I say all the time..I don’t have any regrets. I have the trust that everything happens for a reason. Listen to your inner voice & the advices it gives you :)

    Happy Valentine’s Day Sweetie

  5. I really liked reading your post, it’s so beautiful written. There are many parts that apply to me. Also I find your blog very inspiring!

    Happy Valentine to you, too! This a rather amusing quote I found a few days ago:
    ‘Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.’ ~ Albert Einstein
    I thought about how the meaning would change, if you said “Gravitation (…) for people rising in love”.. and then I thought about what you could have meant with “Rise in Love”. That you’re taking responsible (instead of falling which seems passive) or that you growing while being in love? Or that you have to reach high (rise) instead of reaching low (falling)?
    I thought about other things as well and like I said, your blog is very inspiring, so thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    1. Thank you Cassie for these kind words. I am glad that my blog inspires you.
      I used that quote of Albert Einstein, lots of time in my blog. Your interpretation of the statement “Rise in love” is absolutely right. Each person need to grow & reach new heights while he/she is love.
      It’s always my pleasure to see you here & read your comment Cassie. You always leave thoughtful comments, so thank you for that. Best wishes to you.

  6. Arindam, again, it is such a joy to share part of your world. You will certainly be a man who will welcome intimacy if this is any indication of who you are. As you indicate, regret really is a waste of time and can be overcome with a sincere understanding that everything has a purpose. When we learn that time is our friend, purpose reveals itself.

    Our happiness is our responsibility. A loved one enhances life and makes it easier to recognize happiness. However, it exists deep within each of us and oozes out while we are busy living our lives.

    Thank you for the time you put into presenting such poignant photos.

    May you know all kinds of love today, too.

    1. Thanks a lot. :) You explain the whole concept of this post with in few words, that to be so beautifully. Even I believe that everything happens to us, has a purpose. That purpose reveals itself, after a certain period of time. So rather than keeping regrets in us, we all need to move on with life. It’s really, all my pleasure to see you here and to read your thoughtful comments.

      Thank you for the wishes. :)

  7. A beautiful and inspiring post. :) With every mistake that we make we also learn something in return.So that mistake makes us better human beings in the long run. I can completely identify with this post.:) Extremely well written :)

    1. Thank you. We all need to learn from our mistakes. Lessons those mistakes give us may not help us to be a successful person, but it will help us to become a better human being. :)

  8. “We all fall in love, without even knowing if that person has the same feeling for us.” – One bitter fact that I have finally come to terms with. Yet following your advice, I should replace the bitterness with the sweetness I get from just looking at these lovely pictures of flowers. The first pic is a santan flower, right? That flower reminds me of my childhood.

    1. Yes Addie, you got it right. The first pic is of santan flower. But why does this flower remind you of your childhood?
      I know you are a brave & intelligent girl, you can replace the bitterness with the sweetness. I am sure, life has lots of beautiful things in store for you. Best wishes to you. May you get all happiness in life. :)

      1. We got lots of that in our garden and our neighbors’ gardens back in my hometown. They were the flowers that greeted me in the morning and begged me for water during the dry season.

        I live in the city now. No sight of santan flowers around.

  9. Life IS a journey, as you say. And it seems the longer we live the wiser we get, but you seem to have an “old soul”, Arindam, full of wisdom, already. Thanks for these beautiful thoughts.

  10. You are so thoughtful, and I feel somewhat melancholy right now, which brings out beauty in your language. I think indeed you are right, there is no reason to get stuck with the past, or with things we should or could have done differently. And even if we have once been burned in the past, there is definitely no reason to not again give of yourself to others in fear of losing hope and love and friendship. That is just anyway the way life goes, nothing stays forever, we should just enjoy whatever joy there is at any given moment. Great post with lovely and very personal pictures.

    1. Thanks a lot.
      “if we have once been burned in the past, there is definitely no reason to not again give of yourself to others in fear of losing hope and love and friendship”- you said it so beautifully. Some how hope is the only thing that can help a person to avoid regrets. As always, I was waiting for your feedback on this post. These intelligent words from you means a lot to me.

  11. Excellent photos to illustrate a well thought out post. Regrets? We all have them as a temporary personal questioning of our capabilities. I guess that I handle these with the following thoughts…

    ‘Put it down to experience’ & ‘Tomorrow is another day’ You can’t change what has perhaps gone wrong and trying to do so can make things doubly worse.

    1. “‘Put it down to experience’ & ‘Tomorrow is another day”- Thank you for this thought. It’s so meaningful. I am going to remember it for a long time. Yes to try & bring a change to those things which went wrong, can only make things worst.
      Thank you for such a wonderful thoughts. All your comments, give me something to keep with me. So a big thank you for that. :)

    1. Thanks a lot Mj. :) Nice to see you after a long time. Yes, regret is an interesting side kick for sure; but it’s up to that person, how he want to take that side kick. :)

  12. Very wise words and thoughts from one so young Arindam…the nuances of love and happiness are varied it is true…but oftentimes it is the love we give away that is the love we actually keep…because love requires struggle and faith…

    May you be blessed with the most beautiful colors of love…

    1. Sukriya Shamaji.
      Thank you for the wish. :) Yes love requires faith and struggle. But for that, a person need to be strong enough to fight for that love. I am glad you liked this post.

    1. Thanks a lot. :) But I did not write that one. I read it in a book. So I though to share this one through this post.
      Nice to see you in my blog. Best wishes to you & your blog. :)

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